Say yes…to change
NLP techniques can be fast and effective.
A few years ago, I was at the Halifax airport and my flight was delayed by a couple of hours. I ran into an acquaintance who was booked on the same flight. Her daughter was getting more anxious by the minute because she had already taken Ativan to calm herself down for the flight, but we were obviously not taking off for some time. The daughter was locked in the bathroom and wouldn’t come out. With the mother’s permission I asked the daughter if she would like to chat with me because I had skills that could help her get through this. She agreed. We did some simple NLP techniques to manage her anxiety and 20 minutes later she sat down happily with her Mom to watch a video. I rarely get to fly with my fearful flyers, but this time I did and when we arrived in Toronto, I asked how she made out on the flight. She said it was fine!
Neuro – Nervous system through which experience is received and processed through the five senses.
Linguistic – Language and nonverbal communication systems through which neural representations are coded, ordered and given meaning.
Programming – The ability to organize our communication and neurological systems to achieve specific desired goals and results
Everything you need to effect change is already within you. There is a positive intention motivating every behavior but some behaviors may be more productive than others. It is my job to connect you with the world in some way that gives you richer choices. Successful living involves change.
Example of NLP Technique – Talking to the Parts
Identify the pattern of behavior to be changed. In a quiet, relaxed state, go inside and find the parts of yourself. Your parts can take any shape or form. Ask yourself “Will the part of me that generates the unproductive behavior (Part X) be willing to communicate with me? If the answer is yes, ask it what its positive intention is for you for creating this behavior. Next, go inside and come up with new alternative behaviors that would satisfy the same positive intention. Ask Part X if it would accept the new choices and the responsibility for generating them as long as is necessary? Also ask which one of the new behaviors will be most successful? Then ask if there are any parts of you that object to the negotiations that have just taken place. Finally, look forward and see yourself exhibiting your new behavior! It feels great, doesn’t it?